Tales from the
Western Woods

Ramblings of a homeschooling mom...
living in Narnia

First Day of School


Well, that was weird. Not weird in a bad way but definitely weird.



That’s how I feel about our first day of school this year.  It’s just Sarah.  Katie is taking classes full-time at Sinclair, so she is officially graduated from our homeschool. This doesn’t mean that I’m completely uninvolved with her education, but I’m definitely taking a backseat and only getting called upon to help her figure out a few assignments or to proofread a paper before she submits it.  So it’s very weird for it to just be Sarah and me.



In any case, our first day went well. This is in spite of Marbles and Missy deciding to get into an epic battle and chase during Literature. (Back and forth, run, run, run, hiss, fight, tumble, meow, in the family room, down the hallway, etc.  It’s extremely distracting when you’re reading something that’s already a little bizarre, like Gilgamesh.)



The second day has also gone well. We had some more entertainment from Marbles, and the water softener decided to do a refresh cycle during Gilgamesh. (It's feeling disjointed enough, as I’m already skipping certain parts of that. Um, holy cow. What in the world?)



So I’m still feeling weird about the whole thing. It’s going to take me awhile to find my new footing.  I guess I can look at it and say that God is preparing me slowly for the soon-coming day when my homeschooling journey is over. It’s just that it’s such a big change, and INTPs don’t like dealing with the big emotions that accompany big changes. 


(We prefer to stuff them, so that they turn into fun things like shingles!)






Camp Friedlander 2013


But Sam turned to Bywater, and so came back up the Hill, as day was ending once more. And he went on, and there was yellow light, and fire within; and the evening meal was ready, and he was expected. And Rose drew him in, and set him in his chair, and put little Elanor upon his lap. He drew a deep breath. “Well, I’m back,” he said.





And camp is over. It’s bittersweet, of course, made doubly so by the fact that AHG is unlikely to have a regional camp there ever again. (I have my opinions on that, but I’m not sure I want to be removed from my volunteer position. Yet. So I’ll keep my mouth shut.)



Angie, LuAnne, and I have worked our butts off since this past fall. So it’s been nearly a year’s worth of work to make camp happen. As communications coordinator, I bore the brunt of pre-camp work with hundreds of emails (or more) and paperwork stuff. LuAnne had her hands full with programming—getting girls in the classes they wanted, coordinating things with the Boy Scouts, and working her network of AHG and BSA people. Angie definitely had a ton of work to do at camp as the point person for everything, and prior to camp she worked hard to verify information we sent out. During the month or so before camp, we were all three working like crazy. And then we all worked hard this past week, roping poor Karen from OH3210 into our craziness! (I’d like to say that we got to kick back at camp and enjoy it all, but that’s a stretch. We did enjoy it as much as possible, but we also continued to work pretty hard to put out fires, take care of paperwork, answer questions, keep things running as smoothly as possible, collect money for program changes, etc.)


Do we look tired? I look tired for sure. I was tired. I am tired.


We enjoyed a great working relationship with Herb at Friedlander, and the rest of the staff was also fantastic (Chuck, Tim, Jordan, et al.). Other than a crazy check-in snafu, things went pretty smoothly, I think. (It’s surprising, unfortunately, how jerky some people can be when things get crazy, and I’m not talking about Friedlander staff. They were terrific! I’m talking about AHG leaders. It’s a good reminder to me to keep my cool in a stressful situation, as it reflects badly on the entire organization.)



Anyway, in the midst of all of this, my oldest cat was dying. We knew it before camp started, so I made sure to say my goodbyes to her beforehand. And I made sure Sarah did, too. She took a sharper turn for the worse at the beginning of the week, and Craig had to have her put to sleep. I chose not to tell Sarah at camp, so that she could enjoy her week as much as possible. It certainly made for a rough day/night for me, but having so much work to do helped take my mind off of it.



(I am deeply grateful to my dear husband for doing this very hard thing for me.)



Well, what’s a typical day like at camp? It was up at 6:39am for me. (I like to pick odd numbers for my alarms.) This is if an owl doesn’t land in the tree above your tent and start carrying on at 6am or earlier. Then I'd gather stuff for a trip to the bathroom to get ready, hike to the dining hall by 7:50am for flag ceremony, and eat breakfast at 8am. Then I'd hang out and finish my tea while the girls got ready to head off to their programs. Often we ended up doing paperwork or camp business after breakfast until lunch. Occasionally, we just got to hang out, or I got to work on my family herbalist stuff. There was usually at least one hike to somewhere in here—rifle range, campsite, climbing tower, etc. Lunch was at 12:15pm. Siesta time afterwards often involved more camp work but, occasionally, it was free time. If I wanted to try to rest, I did it somewhere around 2pm or 3pm. I never slept, but I did rest. More work, more planning happened in here. We touched base with the girls at lunch and dinner. Evening flag ceremony was at 5:50pm and dinner was at 6pm. We usually had some free time after dinner, and I would go get my shower at 8:30pm when there wasn’t a line. (No line of people but plenty of gross caterpillar things lined up on the shower walls and massed on the shower floor.)

 After my shower, I’d head up to the Eagle’s Nest to get on the computer and have some downtime before bed and making sure the girls were rounded up and settled down. I was usually laying down at 11:30pm or so, but there wasn’t any night that I slept all through the night between raccoons and the like. My best night’s sleep was the night it stormed, and I fell asleep to heavy rain, thunder, and very loud tree frogs. (Oh! And earlier that night a tree frog was in the pathway and hopped onto my shoe!)



And here’s the summary of the week for the girls. Our older girls, including Sarah, participated in ACE in the morning and had badges in the afternoon. The other girls (one of our new Pioneers and 5 adopted girls) had badge work in the morning and afternoon. The ACE girls did ice climbing (with special Styrofoam pieces), climbing, and rappelling; took a long bike ride on the bike trail; did a canoe trip on the Little Miami River; spent a morning on the lake paddle boarding, kayaking, blobbing, etc.; and then spent a morning chilling out watching a movie (a bizarre anime something or other—somebody’s Castle?). They also hiked out to a remote location and camped Thursday night (while it stormed). Sarah did Home Care & Repair, which involved power tools and such, and also did Rifle where she scored at the Marksman level (2nd rank in the Winchester Rimfire Rifle program).






They had open time in the evenings and enjoyed swimming, a scavenger hunt, playing card games, eating junk food, and otherwise hanging out and having fun.



The raccoons were relentless this year, though! Almost every night there was a raccoon incident. So there wasn’t a lot of sleep happening (at least for me anyway). I wasn’t worried about raccoons getting in my tent, but the noise kept me up.


What are the three things that wear me out about camp? No sleep, bad food (and it was better this year than last but still gross overall—processed, cafeteria-style food), and people 24/7. I average 8-9 hours of sleep per night at home. At camp, I got less than 5 hours of sleep a night. Add that up over a week, and that’s a sleep deficit of at least 20 hours. By Wednesday or Thursday, I was just plain weird. Jenn and Craig can verify this.



Wednesday, Angie and I escaped camp to go buy a movie at Meijer in anticipation of a stormy night. (We wanted an activity for the camp to do if it was raining. It didn’t rain, but that’s beside the point.) So we are driving around like idiots, not knowing where we’re going, and not caring either. We finally found Meijer. Then we’re walking around the store, and I think I must have looked like a homeless person. I had on cargo pants, a t-shirt, and my big backpack with my water bottle hanging off of it by a carabiner. And we bought pop, bag after bag of junk food, Oreos, chocolate, and the movie, Brave. And batteries. (I have no idea what the people thought of this.)



The next day my friend, Jenn, came out to spend the day with us. She broke me out of camp in the late afternoon, and we ate dinner at Panera. (Good food! Yay!) But, once again, it must have been an odd picture. “Oh, look at that nice lady [Jenn]. She took that homeless woman [me] out for a meal.”



(Seriously. My hair this week! I could’ve been a vagrant.)

Then there was the point at which Jenn found me staring off into the darkness. "What are you looking at?" "Sparkles! My flashlight is making sparkles! Through the crystal on my necklace! See?!" (At that point, she gave me a hug and said it was time for her to go home and time for me to go to bed.)



We had a blast on Thursday with Jenn. By Thursday, everyone was just plain punchy, and we definitely lived up to that. Jenn bought a “I Survived Camp Friedlander” t-shirt, which riled us all up. We tried to chase her down to get the shirt and write on it “8 hours at” between “survived” and “camp.” But she runs fast.



Friday, we were just plain giddy at the thought of camp being over. By the campfire, Angie, LuAnne, and I were dancing and hugging each other, saying, “It’s almost over! It’s almost over!” Yes, I got a little teary-eyed at the very end. I’m grateful that things went very, very well overall. We had beautiful weather for most of the week. We had storms and rain, but it was nothing severe. (And our tadpoles ended up with a huge puddle again after coming perilously close to dying in their drying up puddle!) Our girls all stayed healthy and safe (despite a few issues). They made wonderful memories that they’ll cherish for the rest of their lives. We got a lot of positive feedback about everyone else’s camp experience, too, which was very nice to hear.



But I am very, very glad to be home.





Pffft.

Done. I felt the energy leave last night (Monday); unfortunately, it was in the middle of our Growth Group. (It's terribly inconvenient when you feel your social energy evaporate in the midst of a social gathering, and you can't do a darn thing to stop it!)  So, today, I am done. No energy. Trying to hide.  Except that I can't. There is far too much to be done for the graduation.

As I said on Facebook, INTPs should not have to plan big parties. It just seems excessively cruel. Every decision is paralyzing and angst-ridden. Taking Katie along doesn't help because she is an ISFP and is just as awful as I am at making decisions.  The only true help comes from taking along a J, so that's been Craig or Jenn, in this case. (Thank God for Js!  And I have a lot of you in my life! Accidentally on purpose, I think. ;) )

So I spent Tuesday dragging my sorry butt from place to place, hating every minute of everything (except for seeing Denise's smiling face). Then we stopped to watch baby geese and ducks, and that made things a little better.

Now it's Wednesday, and I'm feeling somewhat better.  I think.  Things are getting done. I have so many people offering to help that I'm feeling really humbled by that. (I have some incredibly awesome friends!)  And I think it'll actually come together.

Now, the emotional aspect of it is being rather successfully suppressed by me. (Oh, do not mention the twitching eyebrow or the shingles nerve pain! I am not letting myself think about that.  Shhh.) Anyway, I expect some kind of private meltdown next week. (My online community--ye be warned!)

But I guess I can go ahead now and say a bit about the emotional stuff.  It's been bittersweet as I've realized Katie and I are coming to an end of our official homeschooling journey.  I took a picture of our last chemistry lesson written on the whiteboard. (O, Chemistry, how I love thee! And how Katie does not!)
I mentally marked the last geometry lesson. I've been trying to consciously think about each milestone, not to be depressed but to be mindful. I am not depressed. I am sad at times, but I am mostly joyful and grateful. I'm also still a little bit in denial and disbelief. I truly can't grasp that we made it. Though I threatened her with the big, yellow bus on a regular basis, we never did it. We stuck it out, through good and bad.  There were times I would have cheerfully sold her to Gypsies, and there were times when she hated my guts. But we made it. 

I think we did okay in the end after all.  I think she learned some stuff, too.  (Oh, dear Lord, I hope so; otherwise, she'll be living here forever!)

20 Reasons My 13-Year-Old Is Glaring at Me

I saw a link going around the internet yesterday called Reasons My Son Is Crying, which includes pictures and funny reasons why this cute, little toddler is crying. (I remember those days!)  It inspired me to write my own list, only I no longer have toddlers. I have the next best thing--teenagers!

Here's what I have so far:

#1 Yesterday, I said, "We're going to work on problems that involve combining x's on one side of the equation before undoing the problem to solve for x."

#2 I sang along to a One Direction song.

#3 I attempted to rap with Thrift Shop.

#4 I posted a Shakespearean version of "Thrift Shoppe."

#5 I looked at her when I shouldn't have.

#6 I asked, "What did you think of that book?"

#7 I asked, "Have you done your chores yet today?"

#8 I suggested she take along a jacket to her friend's house.

#9 I said that the boys in One Direction have weird hair.

#10 I touched her shoulder.

#11 I told her her mascara was smeared.

#12 I asked her not to wear a spaghetti strap tank top on an excursion with my great-aunt who is rather prim and proper.

#13 I agreed with her that Adam Levine is really cute.

#14 I bought a black leather jacket, and she has one, too.

#15 I tried to ruffle her hair in an affectionate manner. 


#16 I was dancing along with "Just Dance" on the Wii.

#17  I suggested she go get her shower.

#18 I asked her to wait on going to get her shower because I needed to get mine.

#19 I opened her door at 11am, so we could possibly start school some time before it got dark outside.

#20 And the most egregious: I asked her, "What's wrong?"


And then I saw this link: 46 Reasons Why My 3-Year-Old Might Be Freaking Out.  I had to laugh! There's not much difference between a 3-year-old and a 13-year-old, is there? :D

On Chords & Laundry

I noticed it the other day when I sat down to play a song at the piano. I can't even remember what it was, something by Coldplay, I think, or maybe Evanescence. (Or maybe even something uncool like “Open Arms” by Journey.) And I had real sheet music with notes for the treble and bass clef.

So I played it as written. That's nothing new. I grew up reading music and playing music by reading the music. It's another language I've learned and one I'm fluent in.

But after I finished playing the song, I went back and looked at it again. This time, I thought, “Hmmm, chord notations above the staff.”

Two years ago, I either wouldn't have noticed them or I would've thought, “Well, that's for the guitar players.” And I would've went on my merry way. But these days, well, I have to play by chords.  That's what our band switched to at church two years ago.  At first, I spent much of rehearsal frantically looking up the notes in each chord and trying to write the notes in the chord next to each chord name—each and every chord name on the pages.

But I noticed awhile ago that I didn't have to keep writing the notes in each chord next to every chord name. Gradually, I had gotten it down to just here and there. And then less and less.

And now? Well, I still don't trust my brain to not go blank. (It happens.) So I still write in a few, especially if the chords are unusual. But, mostly, I don't have to write the notes in anymore.

And so I played the music by chords.

It feels like I'm using a totally different part of my brain. When I play by notes, it feels very left-brained and analytical, which I love.  When I play by chords, it feels very right-brained and intuitive, which I also love. I enjoy using my brain in both ways.  I will admit, though, that the open-ended way of playing by chords is still weirdness! (Moral of the story? I guess you can teach an old dog new tricks.)

So what's the deal with the laundry adventures? Well, don't read The Gospel According to the Earth by Matthew Sleeth if you don't want to be challenged.

For me, after reading “fun” facts like...

  • “A typical family uses 1,800 pounds of coal per year powering just its electric clothes dryer.”
  • “An average of 20,000 pounds of forest, dirt, and rock must be dumped in a stream in order to get that amount of coal [due to mountaintop removal, which is the newest way coal is obtained].”

...I decided I needed to take action.

Here's a picture of mountaintop removal:



Isn't that terrible? :( This was something I was already aware of and petitioning against; however, I didn't connect it with something I was doing. (Duh, I know.)

I already like to hang my clothes outside during nice weather, but I wasn't sure how to manage it during the winter or the rain. I put a question out on Facebook and ended up with 90+ comments! Most Europeans don't use clothes dryers, so I figured they were the ones to ask. (I did get some nice responses from Americans who don't use clothes dryers, too.)

Well, a trip to IKEA later, and I have a clothing rack (or airer) and a drying “octopus.” I've been drying our clothes by the woodstove, and it's been working perfectly fine.

I have learned a few practical things. One, I need to make sure my homemade detergent dissolves well in the water. Otherwise, there can be white, powdery splotches on my clothes. I think the dryer may have been helping to remove those before. I've also learned that I need to rotate and reposition the heavier and thicker items.

The drying octopus has led to some interesting sentences such as, “Your underwear is on the octopus” and “The octopus is poking me in the butt!”

Well, anyway, God has been showing me lately how much of life needs to be intentional. From eating real, whole foods, to trying to do more to be a good steward of our earth, or to making the effort to buy wisely to avoid contributing to human trafficking, God calls us to be wise and intentional. It's not easy, and I have a long way to go. (Yes, I'm aware of the issues with IKEA, so the irony of me buying the stuff at IKEA is not lost on me. It's a bit of a human trafficking clash with environmental consciousness.) But you still have to do what you can, and that's what I'm trying to do—one piece at a time.








A Poem by vison

So, you know, I’m a common person.
I can’t live on high all the time;
I can't stay under either,
I’m made of something that makes me float
Up from the deep dark pit at the bottom.
Here I am, stuck in dailiness:
A woman whose work is not only never done,
This woman doesn’t want it to be.
Queens and Saints went mad, they didn’t cook
And do laundry. They sat on golden chairs
Or lolled about in damp caves being Holy,
And thought they were like men.
Sisters, I got news for you:
Washing clothes and stacking dishes
Are charms against madness and despair.

Here I am at the end of a long heavy day,

A day I carried around for months,
A day I turned over and over in my hands
Trying to get it to be right.
But days, like the weather, have their own rules
And they proceed from dawn to dark
Exactly as if I wasn’t even here.
This is a lesson I haven’t yet learned
Though something has been trying to teach me.
I’m used to stacking dishes and folding clothes.
But sometimes you can’t stack or fold,
You can only endure the day from dark to sun
And back again. The best thing is,
It’s never as bad as you thought it would be,
Except when it’s worse.


~Sheila Engh